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The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament. They describe conquest, war, hunger, and death respectively. We use this metaphor to describe communication styles that, according to Gottman research, can predict the end of a relationship. 1. Criticism The first horseman is criticism.
The first horseman is because he causes the most first suffering by far! He goes forth “conquering, and to conquer.” The word conquer means “to come off with the victory” (Thayer’s Lexicon). This conquering occurs in the time between Christ’s first coming and His Second Coming. The first horseman conquers by deceiving!
4 sie 2019 · John Gottman’s FOUR HORSEMEN OF THE APOCALYPSE 1. Criticism: Attacking your partner’s personality or character, usually with the intent of making someone right and someone wrong: Generalizations: “you always…” “you never…”“you’re the type of person who …” “why are you so …” 2. Contempt:
FOUR HORSEMEN OF THE APOCALYPSE The four attitudes that most predict the dissolution of a relationship, especially in combination, are criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling (in order of least to most dangerous). Dr. John Gottman, a psychologist at the University of Washington, studied more than 2,000 married couples over two decades.
4Horsemen.pdf - Free download as PDF File (.pdf), Text File (.txt) or read online for free. John Gottman identified four behaviors that are detrimental to relationships called the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse": criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
In his “Love Lab” Research, John Gottman identified four traits that could predict with a 90% success rate whether or not a couple would stay together. He would go on to name these four traits the “Four Horsemen”.
THE FOUR HORSEMEN AND HOW TO STOP THEM WITH THEIR ANTIDOTES CRITICISM Verbally attacking personality or character. CONTEMPT Attacking sense of self with an intent to insult or abuse. DEFENSIVENESS Victimizing yourself to ward off a perceived attack and reverse the blame.
