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The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament. They describe conquest, war, hunger, and death respectively. We use this metaphor to describe communication styles that, according to Gottman research, can predict the end of a relationship. 1. Criticism.
John Gottman’s FOUR HORSEMEN OF THE APOCALYPSE. 1. Criticism: Attacking your partner’s personality or character, usually with the intent of making someone right and someone wrong: Generalizations: “you always...” “you never...”“you’re the type of person who ...” “why are you so ...”. 2.
FOUR HORSEMEN OF THE APOCALYPSE The four attitudes that most predict the dissolution of a relationship, especially in combination, are criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling (in order of least to most dangerous). Dr. John Gottman, a psychologist at the University of Washington, studied more than 2,000 married couples over two decades.
4Horsemen.pdf - Free download as PDF File (.pdf), Text File (.txt) or read online for free. John Gottman identified four behaviors that are detrimental to relationships called the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse": criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
GOTTMAN’S FOUR HORSEMEN. In his “Love Lab” Research, John Gottman identified four traits that could predict with a 90% success rate whether or not a couple would stay together. He would go on to name these four traits the “Four Horsemen”.
The Four Horsemen. And How to Stop them With their Antidotes. The Gottman Institute. Horsemen. Antidotes. Explanations. 1. Criticism. The Antidote to Criticism: Gentle Start-Up. A complaint focuses on a specific behavior, but criticism attacks a person’s very character.
THE FOUR HORSEMEN AND HOW TO STOP THEM WITH THEIR ANTIDOTES CRITICISM GENTLE START UP CONTEMPT DEFENSIVENESS TAKE RESPONSIBILITY BUILD CULTURE OF APPRECIATION STONEWALLING PHYSIOLOGICAL SELF-SOOTHING Verbally attacking personality or character. Talk about your feelings using “I” statements and express a positive need. Attacking sense of ...
